I’ve wondered for decades what the keys to success were.
Mostly I failed to find them. Why? In large part because I was chasing the result of success, money, instead of just working a process that would get me to that result. These days I’m trying to focus more on the daily process of just doing what matters, or as a friend of mine, Big Dave Daily says, “Do Shit that Matters!”
So, I’m gonna start with one of the keys to success, some shit that matters:
Just Give a Damn
This might be the foundation of all success; I don’t know. But what I do know is that if you don’t give a damn, about what you do, how you do it, why you do it, then you’re never gonna be successful. NEVER.
“But there are a lot of fuckheads out there making billions who don’t seem to care about anything!”
True. There are. But they only seem to not to care. They care about many things, the things that bring them all that money, at least. But they forget to care about the things that matter, that bring true success.
Give a Damn About Why You Do What You Do!
Why do you do what you do?
For money? Pah! It’s a pathetic reason. What is your mission? What is your purpose in life? Do you know? Have you ever given it much thought? If not, then you have no fuckin’ clue where you’re going, or why. Don’t sweat it; most people don’t.
My suggestion? Figure it out! Now! Hell, it took me almost 50 years to find my purpose, but I did. I’m gonna explore just how you do that soon, in another article, but start asking yourself the question, “What makes me energized?” That’s where you start. Always begin with the things that you do that engage your full attention. Sometimes this is your work, but more often than not, it’s one of your hobbies, or something you do for your community.
Ask yourself, “The last time I lost track of time, what was I doing? What about in the past? Were there other moments in my life where I was so absorbed in what I was doing, that time didn’t matter?”
That’s how you find your purpose. The clues are in those moments. Trust me, they fuckin’ are!
Give a Damn About Other People!
This is one where a lot of people who look successful, really aren’t, and they’re miserable as a result.
What is real success anyway? Isn’t it happiness? Joy? A sense of well-being? Having meaningful work to do? Great work? Isn’t it also the quality of the relationships we have? At home, at work, in our community? Psychologists know, these days, that fulfillment comes from our relationships, more than any other place. But so many of us take them for granted, abuse them, neglect them, or just don’t have them!
To be truly successful, you really must care about other people. Start with your family, your friends, and then the people you work with. How do you treat them? Do you show genuine interest in their lives? In their work? In what matters to them, and what drives them to excellence? If you don’t, you better get to work on it, or kiss success goodbye.
You also have to give a damn about a lot of other things, but if you first focus on why you do what you do, and then focus on the relationships with those around you, you’ll be on the right path.
See y’all next time!