That’s what we’ve always been told, anyway. But is it true?
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I don’t think so, not anymore. If you look around you, look at the people that are in your life, are they not a reflection of your own mindset? If you are worried, stressed, negative, how are the mindsets of those people? The same, more often than not.
In reality–a loaded term, I know–like attracts like, negativity attracts negativity, and positivity draws out positivity. This is the so-called, Law of Attraction, that has regained a great deal of traction in recent years among people attempting to become more ‘self aware.’
I won’t get into the plethora of definitions for self awareness that seem to be floating around; we’ll leave that for another day. But the Law of Attraction is a little easier to understand, if not to implement.
Law of Attraction: What the Hell is it?
In simple terms, the law states that ‘what your mind is set upon, is what you will get.’
It’s hard to put it any simpler than that. We might complicate that a little, by saying that if your mind is focused on Failure in one area of your life, work for instance, that doesn’t mean that’s where the Failure will arise. It might manifest itself in your personal life, first, which may in turn drag you down at work.
Negative energy lodged in the mind, will manifest negative things, events, and people in the physical world. Of course, your mind IS in the physical world, as well. There really is no distinction between mind and matter.
The inverse is also true, however. If we can hold mostly positive thoughts in our minds, then positive events, things, and people will appear in our lives. And that’s what most of us want, if not all of us.
The problem is that each mental state–positive and negative–have their own momentum, a reinforcing feedback loop, if you will. If you are already in a negative loop, you tend to remain there, much like Newton’s Law of Inertia (bodies in motion tend to stay in motion).
The same holds true for the positive feedback loop, though for some reason buried in our DNA, or a million years of socialization, the tendency for negative energy to resonate in our brains seems stronger. This is probably an early survival instinct: lizard brain stuff that kept our ancient ancestors from being eaten by lions, tigers, and bears.
This tendency toward the negative mindset makes it very difficult to break that whirlpool of negative piss if you’re stuck in the middle of it.
In my case, I’ve slowly managed to slow down, and rid myself of the constant state of negativity when it comes to several key areas of my life: relationships, and the work I do, for instance, but when it comes to monetary success–actually getting paid for the work I do–I can’t seem to pull myself out of the toilet, even though I know, intellectually, what I need to do to accomplish that.
I Need to Visualize Success
I’m told that I need to visualize success. The problem with that is the vagueness of the command. What the fuck does success mean, in the first place? And in the second place, how does one visualize something so vaporous as success?
Success isn’t easy to define, especially monetary success. Money isn’t concrete; it’s theoretical. In fact, it doesn’t really exist, at least not in the same sense that the desk I’m writing on exists–which of course, doesn’t really exist either, in the sense that it’s not really solid. But we can say that the desk has a higher level of so-called, existence. We can touch it, set things upon it, or do the boogaloo on it. We cannot say the same for money. And when I say money, I’m not talking about the shit in your wallet.
That dollar bill, that quarter, isn’t money; it’s a symbol for the idea of money, not money itself. It is an I.O.U. from the government that says that you can exchange it for goods, as if it were money. Money is much more complicated than that, and it’s that complication, that lack of solidity, that makes visualizing it as part of our success, very difficult.
And there lies my problem. I can visualize a lot of things. I’ve visualized dropping a 70′ putt on the golf course–and accomplished it! I’ve visualized sunny weather when the weatherman staked his reputation on storms, and I won (I’ve actually done this many, many times). I’ve also conjured up storms themselves: snow storms, thunderstorms, even thunder-SNOWstorms, which are pretty fuckin’ rare. But I have yet to be able to conjure up money, to visualize it flowing into my bank account. It’s just too vague, too vaporous an idea for me to imagine.
I suppose I could attempt to visualize the things that money could bring: a new car, a new house, a trip around the world, but I don’t really want another car, definitely not a new house–I love ours, and while I’d love to travel around the world, even that seems a bit difficult for me to crystallize in my mind. I’ve attempted to create a picture of those things, but mostly failed.
And harder to imagine is how I would feel if I had enough money flowing in to cover all my bills, and to do many of the things I want to do with it–mostly, spend it and give it away. I can’t seem to wrap my brain around the vision. I’m not sure where to start. I think a large part of my problem is that I’ve never had any monetary success, so quite frankly, I have no fuckin’ clue what it would feel like, or look like.
So, I’m going to pose a couple of questions to you, since you might be better at this than I am. Maybe you’re a life coach, or self awareness guru, or something.
- How does one kickstart the Law of Attraction? How do I break the inertia when it comes to any particular area of my life? How do I begin a move towards positive energy, and away from negative?
- How can I visualize monetary success when I feel I have no frame of reference? I’ve never had any real monetary success. I’m not sure how it feels, or what it would look like, at least in my life. Where do I start? What practical advice can you give? (And I do mean practical. I don’t want any platitudes about it; I’ve heard plenty of those.)
If you can help me, I’ll come back in a followup blog article and give you, or several of you, credit for your assistance! I’d love nothing more than to do that.
Okay, give it your best shot!